Embracing Blogship
Friday, April 4, 2014
What's Missing?
The other night Tori and I sat outside our little downtown apartment gazing at the city lights while debriefing such a fun-filled week in California (It was my first time there by the way. And yes I'm a believer now).
We started talking about how busy life has been. As your schedule starts to fill up, it gets easier and easier to just exist in society. School gets crazy with all the research papers required. Work can become hectic with all the deadlines required to be met. And the rest of your time goes to working on your marriage, attending small groups, and catching up with friends. (You try and throw a good night's rest in there every once in a while).
Before you know it, you're absolutely booked. I've been on the opposite end of the spectrum too by the way. I've had multiple seasons with way too much time on my hands. And I usually fill those with overdoses of Netflix. It starts out innocently until your three seasons into Sons of Anarchy and you feel life slipping into deep ice cream filled depression. Thats another story though I suppose.
Life is full now. And I mean to the very minute. As I was experiencing all of this, I thought where is Jesus in all of this?
I'm not saying I've stopped praying, reading my bible, or going to church. I do all of that. But there is still something missing.
As were sitting there, I realize something.
I miss Jesus.
I miss thinking about Him. I miss resting in the good thoughts He has for me and Tori. I miss the energy i get from slowing down and taking in his presence.
It's so easy to forget too when life is fun and full. But the reality is that somewhere in your life, the absence of resting in his presence seeps out. For some, its that you start believing lies about yourself. For others, it can be physical fatigue. In the story of Mary and Martha, Martha's lack seeped into her frustration with Mary's rest.
For me, I start to rationalize everything. I know that sounds weird but its true. I start thinking like and blending in with culture in my thought life. I forget the beauty of what being a believer consists of.
we get to believe for bigger things
we get to take leaps of faith
we have an anchor
we can have peace of mind
we have a reason to be positive in every situation
But all of that can be taken away, if we let it. The reality is that we need Him and it all it takes is to take a step back every once in a while to rest.
-Aaron
Thursday, February 13, 2014
Remembering Who I Am
I often look around for encouragement in who I want to be like as I continue to grow and develop. I look around and see all the greats going before me. Completely amazed by where they are and what they're like.
There's something inside of my subconscious that tells me that in order to be as loved and honored by others as they are, I need to just recreate them.
I caught myself in those thoughts today!
That's completely wrong!
There is only one of them and one of me.
I'm not saying I don't appreciate who I am because I definitely do. I think there are so many special characteristics about myself that God put in me.
I am saying that I naturally look up to others who I respect, which can be a very positive thing. But there are two things we can't forget when looking at others like ourselves:
1. We are One of A Kind!
We are so uniquely made and only you can be the best version of yourself. Look to other for encouragement as you see them blossom, but look to Jesus to tell you who you are. The longer we wait to do that, the longer we prolong growth and LOVE FOR OURSELVES.
2. Those people that we constantly look up to were a process. They weren't born with such a polished way about them. They went through awkward puberty, thinking too much of themselves, discouragement, and probably a lot of humbling.
Thanks Jesus for being so real and active in my thought life today.
-Aaron
-Aaron
Saturday, February 1, 2014
Position Over Competition
I have an inner dilemma that controls my thoughts pretty regularly. My heart has always been for the ministry and to be leading in some aspect. But right now I'm committed to getting school done and working a part-time job and being faithful with the friend group I've been blessed with. I'm the type of person that wants instant gratification so this season has been stretching for me. I'm excited about school and how well cultured its making me as I dig deeper into Sociology and History, but there is always a pull from my heart to just be giving ministry everything I have.
I've been thinking a lot about the incredible leaders around me that get to do what I want to do. Its an amazing thing to see someone thrive in what they are called to. It can also be a struggle if you feel called to the same thing but aren't in the same season. There is a decision that has to be made. No doubt that it is a slugfest between my flesh and my confident God-given identity. The decision is to either envy or feel threatened by this equal or to support and help promote them in God's calling on their life. The world tells us that we have to compete and push others down to get what we want and to stay instead. I think the Lord calls us to something higher.
I watched a message from one of my favorites, Judah Smith called "What Just Happened?" He talks about how our position is granted before our practice and not the other way around. I have to choose to be confident in who God made me to be, in the purpose he has called me to, and that He is the one that opens doors and closes Him. We can try and wiggle ourselves into opportunities, but at the end of the day God has the final say in where favor given. Besides, there is too much baggage that comes along with the world system. Things like: worry, stress, competition, and let down. His way brings promise, protection, faith, and lifting each other up. That's who I want to be and that's who I'm choosing to be. My position is final, therefore my practice can be humble and confident.
-Aaron
Sunday, January 5, 2014
Everything is Secondary
Going home for Christmas break I was really in desperate
need of God speaking to me.
Just some background: I am in Birmingham, it has been
challenging being away from my family and everything familiar to me.
Going home I was in bliss. I woke up hopped out of my bed to
find my parents cooking breakfast and presents under the Christmas tree. It really was too good to be true. We had no school worries,
job worries, all we had to do is enjoy our vacation with family. Side note:
Fairhope really is the most quaint, homey place in the world. (If you disagree,
you have every right to be wrong).
As always, God came through for us and lifted our sprits
with powerful message.
The first thing he spoke to us was this: When coping with
every day life we have the ability to strategize, learn about ourselves, make
plans, make back up plans, read books about who we are as humans. All my life I
have collected little things like this along the way the most recent ones
being: grace, the importance of community, the power of vulnerability. I have always been the same way. I’ve always been a learner.
I love learning new ideas, new things about myself, about God, and about how to
relate to other people. I think I secretly was waiting for that one book or
person that was going to teach me how to be completely self sufficient and how
to be great at everything. Little did I know… All of these things are
NECESSARY realizations. So necessary in fact that God teaches us about them.
But what God spoke to me was that although these things are God breathed,
necessary, and beautiful, they are SECONDARY. We will continue to learn them,
and continue to collect these little tidbits about life. What I needed God to
tell me though was that I struggle when I convince myself that any one of these
things will sustain me, when ultimately only he can do that. God wanted me to
understand that yes, these things are beautiful, and yes, he thinks it is sweet
that we collect them. BUT he has granted us a trump card called Jesus Christ that
beats even the most strategic strategy of living. And I
feel like every person that reads this has had this thought before. And it just
seems so impractical. But we’ve decided that it has to be real and it has to be
practical. And we decided we want to spend the rest of our lives figuring out
how we can make it more practical, because these little lessons we learn are
all seasonally relevant. We needed to learn grace when we lacked in giving
ourselves enough. We needed to learn the value of community when we realized
how tough life can be when you’re trying to figure it out by yourself. And we
needed to learn the power of vulnerability when we realized, it was the key to
becoming a more wholehearted person. But Jesus and the easy yoke he provides,
is timeless. And we want to know more about it.
Today we’re headed home from Fairhope and this is the
beginning of us trying to set this into motion. For my own sanity I need Jesus
to be my primary source. He is the cheat code. In a hard moment I have the
choice to rack my brain for the best plan that I can come up with. Probably one of the biggest problems we have is trying to
diagnose ourselves in figuring out why were feeling the way we do. - OR
I can take the easy and much less commonly used approach, I can trust, worship,
pray, or just say Jesus.
-Tori
-Aaron
Monday, December 23, 2013
Sacred Journeys
-Aaron
Friday, December 20, 2013
Hometown Value
First of all, thank you for all of the support we have been given by our friends and family over this blog. We're grateful to have people that consider our thoughts and written words a worthy read. So thank you all!
Aaron and I have been really feeling a raw and rocky form of
life for the past few months. Living in Birmingham is completely new. Well I’ve actually lived here for a couple years, but our
lives look a lot different now with different circle of friends and people in
general.
Growing up I found complete security in my family, friends,
and sweet Fairhope. Moving to Birmingham has made me feel a level of fear and
insecurity that I never thought was possible. Being away from everything I have
ever known has made it so I regularly forget my value. When I was home I could
walk in to Los Tacos and know exactly who I was, and my place in the world. If
you have had to leave home and leave things that are familiar you know how
earth shattering this feeling can be.
For the longest time I was incapable of putting my finger on
the origin of my insecurity. I honestly thought that I was just losing my mind,
or, of course, that it was Aaron’s fault. Knowing what makes me feel so much
less valuable has aided in pursuing things that show me who I am. I, too, have felt this during this season. Its hard living in
a place where you and your friends have been molded and then suddenly everyone
starts moving away and you’re the only one that feels called to stay behind. I’ve
felt my highest highs and my lowest lows in Birmingham and God has been
faithful through it all. So I went from a countless number of friends and
brothers doing ministry together, to just a couple faithful friends that have
their own busy lives and schedules. So though Tori and I have different
stories, we are no doubt in the same season of life.
This fight is not over; Birmingham still does not feel 100%
like home. We know what we need though and we are pushing to get there- we are
trying to get more involved in our church, it can be challenging and sometimes
embarrassing trying to bulldoze into a group of brand new people and show them
why they should love you. I could go on and on about
that. But all I will say is that its so crazy how you feel like the most
significant person in the room when you have that best friend with you and you
know no matter how big of a fool you make yourself look, they are going to
laugh and support you. Going from that scene to a scene of a new click of
people that just don’t quite understand how dry of a sense of humor you have
and crickets are just chirping away. We have learned that no matter how uncomfortable though, the
slightest bit of social effort on our part means something and makes us feel
accomplished. Thinking about the great effort required in making a place for
ourselves is comedic in comparison to what it is like in our hometown, but it
is something that must be done! And there is so much
reward in it. There are just as many incredible people waiting to be connected
to us as we to them just around the river bend (stole that from Pocahontas).
There is purpose where we have made our home. There are too many people in our
circle of influence that we could benefit from by knowing them and could make
us better. An example would be how much I’ve realized the substantial
fulfillment I get while really valuing my time with my co-workers.
I hope that this can be of
some comfort to anyone feeling alone or de-valued in a new place. God has been
faithful comforting us and teaching us to expect to see him in day-to-day
things. When life isn’t gliding by so quickly and easily its way easier to
recognize how he answers our prayers
-Aaron -Tori
Sunday, December 15, 2013
Why embrace blogship?
So why did we decide to embrace blogship? What made us decide to document significant details of our life and our cat and expect people to be interested? I don't know. I do, Alex Lazzari told us to! We woke up one day and noticed all the creative and beautiful things people were doing around us, and decided that we would like to join the club. FOR EXAMPLE: Jake Carnley and The Great Bear Wax Co., Alex Lazzari and his sweet print business, Courtney Kurtz and her blog/creative site, so many more that we will mention. We searched for weeks for something incredibly creative that we could collaborate on to become our niche. Eventually we decided that niches are overrated and sometimes you just got to pick something and run with it. If it fails drastically, then try something else. To tell the truth, I tried to build a guitar stand with this new found inspiration flowing through my veins. It was a real great guitar stand. I looked at it for a few days and then eventually went out and bought one for $10. What a steal! (Approved by Tori)(true). Not to say, I'm giving up on building stuff, because I built a rockin bar in my kitchen. As the days go on and we post blogs we will show you our progress in things that Aaron builds, I sew, Bugz destroys, etc. Along with things that we're learning, funny stories, and on and on.
At first I was hesitant about a blog because anyone can start a blog. But then we decided to go with a blog because anyone can start a blog... But seriously, I think its pretty interesting the seasons we go through and how we come out the other end of them. And anytime I try and journal privately, I always write it as if someone else is gonna steal it one day and read it. So I was hardly ever honest in my own journals. But we'll try and keep it as honest and authentic as we can without causing our loved ones to worry about us. The thought of publicly displaying things that are hard for us, things we're working on, and things that are just on our hearts is kind of nerve racking. I want us to have a way to document the things that we learn, and I want to share it too.
I know about 15 people that probably knew for a fact that I would mention Brene Brown at some point within this blog so here it goes.
Brene Brown with the help of Ted talks, both with the help of Jesus, taught us the power of vulnerability. Inspiring us for all of eternity, and motivating us to be open about what we are experiencing in every day life to reassure all of the other humans that they are not crazy! Either that, or we are just all crazy.
-Aaron -Tori
Links to our super creative and incredible friends and family:
Jake Carnley: Great Bear Wax Co.
Courtney Kurtz
Alex Lazzari Printmaking
At first I was hesitant about a blog because anyone can start a blog. But then we decided to go with a blog because anyone can start a blog... But seriously, I think its pretty interesting the seasons we go through and how we come out the other end of them. And anytime I try and journal privately, I always write it as if someone else is gonna steal it one day and read it. So I was hardly ever honest in my own journals. But we'll try and keep it as honest and authentic as we can without causing our loved ones to worry about us. The thought of publicly displaying things that are hard for us, things we're working on, and things that are just on our hearts is kind of nerve racking. I want us to have a way to document the things that we learn, and I want to share it too.
I know about 15 people that probably knew for a fact that I would mention Brene Brown at some point within this blog so here it goes.
Brene Brown with the help of Ted talks, both with the help of Jesus, taught us the power of vulnerability. Inspiring us for all of eternity, and motivating us to be open about what we are experiencing in every day life to reassure all of the other humans that they are not crazy! Either that, or we are just all crazy.
-Aaron -Tori
Links to our super creative and incredible friends and family:
Jake Carnley: Great Bear Wax Co.
Courtney Kurtz
Alex Lazzari Printmaking
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